The case of the trans woman who was stripped of his beauty queen title for the crime of wearing boxer shorts keeps making the rounds every once in a while. I’m sure you’ve seen this, but just to recap:
From the Telegraph:
“The winner of a national transgender beauty pageant has been stripped of her title amid accusations she was a drag queen and “not transgender enough”. Jai Dara Latto, 22, was named Miss Transgender UK in a glittering ceremony in London in last September. But six months on she has had her title removed after organiser Rachael Bailey claimed she was shown footage of the model in boxer shorts. The pageant runner branded Jai a ‘drag queen’ and accused her of not living full-time as a woman.”
She is set to give her crown to another beauty queen, Daisy Bell. The footage which made her change her mind showed Jai wearing a pair of boxer shorts. It also reportedly shows Jai working out at the gym in a T-shirt and shorts.”
This is so hilarious to me, a woman who wears boxer shorts, that a man was considered not woman enough because of wearing them. In our strange world, wearing boxer shorts is a sure sign of being a man. Also, why would working out in a T-shirt and shorts be something masculine? Doesn’t this person know that women work out in a T-shirt and shorts? What does he think women work out in, ballroom gowns? Bikinis, perhaps?
On a similar note, women who like to wear boxer shorts report that this means they are really men and should take hormones. This woman, for example, lists “wearing boxer shorts” as one of the reasons why she knew she was FtM. She believes it’s not normal for women to want a “masculine” presentation. It’s funny—she dresses the way I do and I’m not even that masculine. According to these genderists and their belief in the masculine power of boxers, I should apparently be a man, too.
The following section will be slightly TMI.
I don’t wear boxers during the day, but I wear them to bed. I buy them from the men’s section and they come in masculine colours like black, grey, and black-with-a-grey-waistband. That suits me just fine. I wear them because they are comfortable and appropriate sleep wear, and it baffles me that these garments are only sold to men. Why would clothing manufacturers assume that women don’t want to wear comfortable, loose cotton shorts to bed? Of course, if they made boxers for women, I’m sure they’d make them pink with cute patterns, and so I’d probably still buy the ones in the men’s section.
I don’t think it’s a particularly good idea to wear close-fitting underwear to bed. The Huffington Post agrees with me:
“I often tell my patients to sleep without underwear,” Dr. Alyssa Dweck, co-author of V is for Vagina, told Shape. “If [the area] is constantly covered — especially by a fabric that’s not moisture-wicking or absorbent — moisture collects, [creating the] perfect breeding ground for bacteria or yeast,” she continued.
This is especially true for women going through menopause. “The more you wear, the more you have to take off when you get night sweats,” Dr. Raquel B. Dardik, clinical associate professor, Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at NYU Langone Medical Center told.
And if you’re a lady who is prone to itching and irritation down there, gynecologist and blogger Dr. Kate really recommends skipping the underwear to let your nether regions breathe.”
It seems that not only are boxer shorts appealing to women, they are in fact better for our female anatomy than so-called “women’s” underwear. Wearing boxers either at night or during the day could prevent sweating and moisture buildup. In fact, even as I type this, I wonder if I shouldn’t consider wearing my boxers during the day. Why not?
When I shop in the women’s section, it’s always full of underwear I don’t understand and would never wear. First of all, why is any of it made with synthetic materials? No way am I smothering my vulva with polyester all day, that would be dreadful. And why does a lot of it look like fetish gear? I don’t need to go around all day dressed like I’m ready to spontaneously start doing a porn photo shoot.
But the organizer of Miss Transgender UK seems to think it’s really important to women to wear sexy underwear at all times.
“Rachael said: “When Jai entered the competition, she said she was full time and she is not — she is a drag queen. The documentary showed her living as a gay male in her boxer shorts. “Underwear is very important to transgender females — one of the first thing people do is change their underwear as it makes us feel like we are finally a woman.”
So basically, to be a trans woman, it’s of the ultimate importance to immediately start wearing the type of feminine underwear that plenty of actual women don’t even like wearing. Because it’s not about becoming a woman, it’s about becoming a stereotype. If boxer shorts are appealing to actual women and also good for our female bodies, then shouldn’t trans women want to wear boxers? (rhetorical question.)
As far as I’m concerned, trans women can have ALL the sexy underwear. I just want the comfortable kind. And that doesn’t make me a man—it makes me a completely normal and sensible woman.