Bruce Jenner announces on camera that he tried on his 10-year-old daughter’s clothes

Thanks to Gallus Mag for posting this. I had to watch this several times, because I was so struck with disbelief. Here is Bruce Jenner giving a speech at what is described as an “LGBTQ organization” and he talks about stealing his daughter’s clothes when they were around 10 years old. He refers to them as his “little daughters” and says he thought he was “clever” and “cute” for trying on their clothes when they were out. His daughters set up a security camera in their room and caught their dad in action.

At this point I just want to vomit profusely, because here is this man who is so powerful and privileged that he can stand up in front of a crowd of people and television cameras and admit to having an incestuous interest in the clothing of his prepubescent daughters and present the story like it’s some funny anecdote. It’s not funny. It’s sexual abuse of children and it’s reprehensible and abhorrent.

Bruce Jenner chose the name Caitlyn for himself when he “came out” as a pervy autogynephile transwoman. The name Cailtyn belongs to the generation of his grandchildren. This is not a girl’s name that was in use in his generation. He is calling himself by a young woman’s name and admitting interest in the clothing of prepubescent girls. How is anyone calling this man “brave”? How is anyone calling him by female pronouns? This man is not a woman, he doesn’t identify as a woman, he is a creepy perverted cross-dresser and deadbeat dad who is abusive toward his children, including sexually abusive, and who may have actually masturbated into a child’s underwear.

He should be booed off the stage, he should not be given a platform to speak, and he should be investigated for child sexual abuse.

And to add insult to injury, he gave this speech at an LGBTQ organization. I am one of the ‘L’s in LGBTQ and I am outraged that this abuser is using our acronym to support his fetish. As far as I know, LGBTQ stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, and Queer, not Gross Dad Who Masturbates Into Children’s Underwear. Get these perps the fuck out of our movement!

I do not consider that LGBTQ organizations give any shits about lesbians or gays. And if this is any indication, they actively hate women and girls. Can you imagine how it feels to be one of his daughters? Not only did their dad violate them as children but now the whole world is listening to how he violated them and people are calling him “brave”? What the fuck?? His daughters are being gas-lighted and revictimized. Any survivor of childhood sexual abuse will probably be triggered by this.

Liberals and queer/trans activists will put trigger warnings on articles that call prostitution violence, but will they put trigger warnings on the promotion of child sexual abuse? Seriously, I’m waiting for them to start putting trigger warnings on Caitlyn Jenner.

Liberals and queer/trans activists will no-platform feminists who speak against violence against women, but will they no-platform a man who proudly proclaims his violation of his daughters? I’m waiting for this to happen, too.

Bruce Jenner should be afraid to show his face in public. Television networks and organizations who promote him should be boycotted.

Another college student group hosts a violent, transphobic cupcake party

Remember that time when a college women’s group in New Zealand nearly killed all their trans women students with horribly violent vulva cupcakes? Well, hold on to your hats, because it’s happened again, this time in California, U.S.A! It seems that Scripps College hosted a violently transphobic event called Project Vulva in which participants were invited to….decorate cupcakes and talk about vulvas. As we all know, when a bunch of privileged college students get together to bond over snack foods, trans women literally die.

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Let’s look at some highlights from their Facebook event page:

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This commenter says “Right like this entire event is so incredibly violent to trans women specifically. I’m so disgusted.”

College students sitting around a table, decorating cupcakes and talking about vulvas…how violent!

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“The term ‘transgendered’ is highly offensive, Kelly. There’s nothing wrong with penises. And having one doesn’t make a person more or less powerful than anyone else. Equating genitalia to a person’s gender is and always will be transphobic.”

This person claims that having a penis doesn’t make a person more or less powerful than anyone else. Phew! I’m so glad that people with penises no longer own most of the world’s money and property, hold most of the positions of power in government and business, have the power and ability to control and purchase female bodies…oh wait! They still do. Also, why is the term “transgendered” offensive? Isn’t that what they’re called? I just can’t keep up with all of this violent nomenclature. The word “transgender” is fine but add the “ed” to the end and suddenly it’s HIGHLY OFFENSIVE. (Since when were oppressed people actually oppressed by morphemes anyway?)

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“Because instead of saying something about how the wording of this event excludes trans women, and further normalizes transmisogyny and violence against trans women, you’re trying to say that I somehow don’t understand the event description, and are trying to spell it out for me. I don’t need your help parsing out the finer details of this garbage, cis, white event. A trans woman is telling y’all this makes her feel uncomfortable and that’s not enough for you to rethink your stance on this? You’re gross, this whole thing is gross, have fun with your ugly cupcakes.”

You heard it, folks. Vulva cupcakes further normalize transmisogyny and violence against trans women. College students getting together to bond over snack food is “garbage, cis and white.” Now, it’s entirely possible that this event will have a lot of white people at it, and maybe the icing will all be white and pink icing, which could perhaps make this a “white” event. However, we don’t know this for sure, and maybe the organizers actually did make sure they purchased a variety of icing colours in order to make sure women of colour felt included at the event? I don’t know, I wasn’t there. But the word “white” here is most likely being used because males who transgender tend to call women who understand biology “white feminists.” Apparently, an understanding of human anatomy is inherently racist. There is a lot of confusion over what intersectionality means these days. It’s supposed to mean an analysis of the way race and class intersect with women’s oppression, not an excuse to invite people with dicks to every goddamn student gathering at every college on the planet. And I like how he calls this a “cis” event even though the organizers specifically referenced trans individuals with vulvas in their event description. It’s like the very mention of a vulva is automatically “cis,” even though trans men have them. Obviously, the word “cis” means something that doesn’t specifically validate trans women’s identities.

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“As someone with a vulva, I think this event was created exactly because people call us “gross” when we talk about them. It can be taken offensively, but it isn’t meant that way. All genders and all vulva-owners and non-vulva-owners are invited! It’s an attempt to normalize and celebrate a body part that is talked about as dirty and disgusting, often. Reproductive systems are really cool, and we should be able to talk about them without tying them to a gender, which this event doesn’t do! The word women is not in the event description. Calling the cupcakes gross kind of underlines the problem this event is trying to fix…vulvas are awesome! Just like all genitalia!”

“I…….am so glad I didn’t end up going to Scripps. There are so many terfs at that horrible school. ^This is a prime example of a trans women exclusionary radical feminist. If your feminism is centered around gendering of genitalia, then it’s surface level and harmful feminism at best. Ariel is a trans woman. And this entire event is focused on excluding women like her and it’s disgusting and you should be ashamed of yourself, Jillian.”

This is just….ludicrous. Here is this woman perfectly adhering to transgenderist dogma by calling women “vulva-owners” and refraining from mentioning that people who have vulvas are female, and it’s still not good enough for trans activist Kasie. Apparently, just talking about vulvas at all, even while refusing to acknowledge the truth about the biological femaleness of that body part, makes someone a TERF. I don’t even get it.

Two commenters in this thread have talked about how it’s wrong to “gender” genitalia. Let’s talk about the transactivists’ mantra that “genitals do not equal gender,” shall we?

When trans activists say this phrase, what they really mean is that genitals do not equal sex. They are unable to differentiate gender from sex, but we know what they’re saying here: they’re saying that a person with a penis can be a woman and a person with a uterus and ovaries can be a man.

I would propose that the statement “genitals do not equal gender” is actually a true statement, if you actually understand what gender is. Gender is a social construct. It is the cultural enforcement of masculinity on men and femininity on women. It is true that your genitals do not determine which sex stereotypes you will identify with. But this is not what trans activists are saying. They are not trying to divorce sexed bodies from cultural constructions so that we can all be free from these constraints, they are trying to enforce the idea that anyone who is “feminine” is female and anyone who is “masculine” is male, regardless of their actual sexed body. It turns out it’s actually the radical feminists who are trying to divorce sexed bodies from cultural constructs so that we can all be free to express ourselves as we are. It is the trans activists who are trying to assign sex stereotypes to men and women.

This sentence is such a gem: “If your feminism is centered around gendering of genitalia, then it’s surface level and harmful feminism at best.” What this person is trying to say is that feminism should not acknowledge the sexed bodies of males and females and what it means to be male or female in a patriarchy. Even though feminism is exactly that—it’s fighting back against sex-based oppression, which necessitates naming sex differences. However, if you understand that gender is a harmful social construct that oppresses the sex class female, then you realize that this sentence actually makes perfect sense, from a TERFy point of view. If your feminism involves assigning a socially constructed gender role to genitalia (i.e. biological sex) then it’s harmful. Because assigning a socially constructed gender role to someone based on their anatomy is oppression. It’s the exact oppression that Totally Excellent Real Females are, in fact, fighting.

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Men are oppressed by cupcakes and I’m scared for the next generation

The trans movement has brought a lot of misogyny and idiocy to student unions and now even high schools. I just cannot believe what I’m seeing sometimes.

The Auckland University Students’ Association is trying to plan an event called Womensfest at which they want to serve vulva cupcakes. This has caused a huge uproar among people who have bought into trans ideology. Apparently, serving vulva cupcakes creates an unsafe environment for trans women. Reading through the comment threads on this page I have found some comments that are so far removed from reality it is shocking. Serving vulva cupcakes at a women’s event has been described as “not respecting the lives of transwomen,” “a slap in the face to intersex people,” and “contributing to violence and discrimination.” One of my favourite sentences is: “This is literally the primary tenet of trans-exterminatory feminism and that branch of feminism has literally killed trans women.”

Many of the commenters are super confused about biology. Someone claimed that “sex is not dimorphic” and that there is a “spectrum of human sex hormones.” Someone claimed that “cis women aren’t real women.” And one man calling himself Kylie posted an entire biology-denying poem:

“trans women are women.
trans women are biologically female.
trans women are womyn-born-womyn.
trans women are female-bodied.
trans women have female chromosomes.
trans women have female reproductive systems.
trans women’s genitals are female.
trans women’s secondary sex characteristics are female.
trans women have female voices.
trans women are female-socialized.

(source: queerkittenprincess on Tumblr)”

Unpack yourselves.
Stop excluding trans women.
Trans women are dying and you are aiding and abetting in that.
You are complicit in that.

One woman innocently asks that since there are already events during Womensfest specifically for trans people, and since most women do have vulvas, isn’t it okay to have vulva cupcakes there? And everyone piles on calling her a TERF. See, it’s not enough for a womensfest to include events designed for men in dresses, the entire festival must actively cater to the feelings of those men.

One person said “the only good thing about terfs is that they dont have feelings so its ok to kill them whenever you want.” Someone said that “cis women” have more social, political, and institutional power than “trans women.” Someone said “This strong association of vulvas with womanhood makes it unsafe for literally every non-cis or intersex person ever to attend.” So Womenfest is being asked to agree that women have institutional power over men, that women who understand our own bodies are making the event unsafe for men, and that women don’t have feelings and it’s okay to kill them. What I’m seeing here is the same old MRAs who have trolled every feminist event since the beginning of time.

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It is so idiotic to claim that snack foods are oppressing people I am just shocked that people are making this claim with a straight face. The only way you can truly believe you are being oppressed by cupcakes is if you are privileged enough that you have no idea what oppression actually is. Oppression is institutional power harming a group of people and limiting what they can do in life. Oppression is groups of people with power forcibly extracting resources from people with less power. Slavery is oppression—both economic slavery and sexual slavery. Widespread police violence against Black people is oppression. Theft of land and genocide perpetrated by colonizers against Indigenous people is oppression. Male control over women’s bodies and reproductive capacity is oppression. Snack foods? Come on! And by the way, this event is a university event, and there are tons of people in the world who will never have the privilege of higher education. The people whining about these cupcakes are some of the most advantaged people in this world. And the idea that a correct understanding of biological facts is “killing people” is so ludicrous that I don’t understand how people don’t reach “peak trans” immediately upon reading this.

As for the biology-denying poem above, that doesn’t stand up to even the slightest bit of scrutiny. Trans women have XY chromosomes. So if trans women have female chromosomes, as the poem states, then does that mean all human chromosomes are female chromosomes? Both XY and XX are female? And if XY chromosomes are female chromosomes, and most men have XY chromosomes, then that means most men are women, right?

And then there’s Lila Perry over in the U.S, a teenage boy who has decided to wear dresses and a wig to school. His school has been very accommodating of his non-compliance with the clothing choices that are normally expected for males. They have provided him a separate washroom to use to keep him safe from the bullying that comes from violent males who try to enforce masculinity on all men. Tweets by Lila reveal that he is interested in dating men, so he is either a gay man or is bisexual, but he is not referring to himself as such–he prefers to call himself a girl. He is so invested in the idea that he really is a girl that he has insisted on using the girls washroom and change room instead of the gender-neutral one that was provided for him. The girls at his school do not wish to share their private spaces with a boy and have made this known. I don’t blame them a bit because Lila is nothing like a girl at all and they have no reason to take his gender feelings seriously. Lila has all the male privilege and entitlement that any other boy has and he has no regard for girls’ boundaries or feelings. Even though the girls have clearly stated they are uncomfortable having a boy in their change room, he does not think they really are uncomfortable. He has decided for them what they feel. He believes they simply do not understand the concept of transgender and that they are bigoted but that their own words saying they are uncomfortable are not true. He only cares about himself and the validation that he really is female. In videos of Lila he appears as a male wearing a wig and he tries to adopt stereotypically “feminine” mannerisms. Unfortunately he has not taken any steps to make sure his male genitals do not become visible in the dresses he wears. The girls at his school are understandably alarmed. Girls do not want to share intimate spaces such as locker rooms and washrooms with males who wear dresses and leave their penises in full view. This is uncomfortable and upsetting for girls to have to deal with since this behaviour strongly suggests that he is an exhibitionist and exhibitionist males are frightening and abusive toward females. Also, the fact that he is acting out the mannerisms that our society has assigned to females makes his classmates feel he is imitating and mocking them. He is stereotyping and violating his female classmates.

I hope that this gay or bisexual teen boy can grow out of having to pretend he really is a girl and can grow into a respectful and mature gay man. Wearing dresses and makeup is fine, but insulting and violating your classmates is not okay. There have been drag queens in every generation because it is totally normal for gay/bi men to want to try on or wear femininity. I can’t help but think Lila is experiencing internalized homophobia and is using the trans cult as a way to avoid dealing with it.

When teen boys insist on disrespecting girls so much, and when cupcakes are oppression, I feel really scared for the next generation. Please, people, break out of this cult!

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A linguistic analysis of ‘woman’

What is a woman? Until recently, the word woman has unambiguously meant an adult human female, where female means the sex that produces ova and can bear young. But males are now being called ‘woman’ too. The word woman has been expanded to mean either an adult human female, or an adult human male who would like to be referred to as female. The only way that males can be called ‘woman’ is if ‘woman’ is a social category to which anyone can belong rather than a biological category based on observable criteria. However, even if ‘woman’ is a social category to which anyone can belong, we still need to define what is meant by ‘woman,’ in order to understand who is included in this category. We can change the meanings of words, but we still need to agree on what they mean in order to communicate effectively.

It is normal for words to change meaning over time. Language changes as new words come into being and as people use old words in new ways. Lots of people study the use of language and the way language changes. Here I’m going to contrast the fields of lexicography and terminology in order to demonstrate the way two different approaches to the word ‘woman’ give us two different outcomes. Lexicographers are people who study words and the way they are used in order to write dictionary entries. Their approach is to start with the word and then look at its meanings. In contrast, the field of terminology starts with a concept—the thing itself—and comes up with a term to designate that concept. Instead of assigning definitions to words, terminologists assign terms to things they have identified. That being said, there is some overlap in the work of lexicography and terminology. These fields are not necessarily as diametrically opposed as I am presenting them here, but I am using the contrast to illustrate a point.

If we start with a word, in this case the word ‘woman’ and look to current usage in order to define it, then we might conclude that ‘woman’ is a social category to which human females as well as males who are transgender both belong. It can look “progressive,” on the surface, to add more meanings to a word, based on new developments in society and culture. However, if we approach the question ‘what is a woman’ from the point of view of a terminologist, then we find out that we cannot add human males to the category ‘woman’ without turning it into a meaningless category. The terminologist’s approach is scientific. It starts with observing the material world, describing and narrowing down what is being observed, and giving it a name. Terms cannot have multiple meanings or interpretations—they have one specific meaning.

In the field of terminology, a ‘concept’ is a unit of knowledge created by a unique combination of characteristics. To distinguish one concept from another we look at all characteristics, and especially the delimiting characteristics—those that clearly differentiate the concept under study from other similar concepts. Female is a scientific term that designates the sex that produces ova and can bear young. These are observable characteristics based on the scientific study of human beings, as well as many other species. When terminologists study a concept, they make terminology records listing the characteristics of that concept, including the delimiting characteristics, and they include references to the research on which their observations are based.

Here is a simple example of a list of characteristics of ‘adult human female’:

  • Is a living being belonging to the species homo sapiens
  • Has the body parts that human beings have, including a brain, heart, lungs, stomach, and limbs such as arms and legs, etc
  • Also has female reproductive organs such as a uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries
  • Has reached sexual maturity (can reproduce) and menstruates
  • Can gestate and give birth to babies if impregnated, in the absence of any medical problems
  • Has mammary glands which produce milk to feed offspring
  • Waist smaller than hips
  • Fat deposits around buttocks, thighs and hips
  • Body hair present on the head, under the arms and between the legs
  • Round face
  • Round shoulders
  • Small hands and feet
  • Soprano voice

Where do these characteristics come from? Scientists have studied the characteristics of living things for centuries, and we have noticed certain patterns. One pattern we have noticed is sexual reproduction, in which males and females of a species combine eggs and sperm in order to reproduce. In our species, approximately half of the population produces ova and can bear young, and the other half produces sperm which can fertilize ova. There are a few exceptions, but most humans fall into one of these categories. After observing these characteristics we can generalize them into concepts. The concepts of ‘adult human female’ and ‘adult human male’ were identified long ago by studying the human anatomy and naming the findings.

Not all adult human females share the same characteristics. For example, there are some who cannot bear young due to medical problems. There are some who have their breasts or uteruses surgically removed. Some human females have a voice lower than the soprano range. Some human females have broad shoulders. So how to determine what makes one a human female if the characteristics are different in each specimen? What you have to find, in order to clarify a concept and distinguish it from other similar concepts, is the delimiting characteristic. It turns out there is a delimiting characteristic that determines whether a given specimen is an adult human female or not. The adult human female is a living being who is a member of the species homo sapiens who has reached sexual maturity and who will, under normal circumstances and in the absence of any surgeries or medical problems, be able to produce ova and bear young, because her genes are set up to make it so. The fact of having sexual organs surgically removed or being unable to use them to bear young because of medical problems does not negate the fact that the human female is genetically programmed to develop a uterus and ovaries that allow her to bear young. It is this concept that was given the designation ‘human female.’ The word ‘woman’ exists as a way to refer to an adult human female as opposed to a female child, or an adult male.

The word ‘woman’ has meant ‘adult human female’ for centuries. If we are to change the word ‘woman’ to mean ‘a social category to which adult human females and adult human males who are transgender both belong’ then what word will we use when we speak specifically of the group of all adult female humans, the biological category of homo sapiens who will, under normal circumstances produce ova and be able to bear young? Do we need to come up with a new word to mean ‘adult human female’ so that we can easily designate this group of living entities, since the word ‘woman’ no longer represents us?

Some people believe that it is acceptable and even necessary to include male humans in the category ‘woman.’ I would propose that the people who want us to stop using ‘woman’ to refer exclusively to adult human females are people who do not believe we need a word that applies only to adult human females. They are people who believe that adult human females do not need to be named and talked about as a group. However, we do need to be named and talked about as a group. We have a distinct biology that includes menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause; we have a distinct socialization based on our sex, and we experience distinct oppressions based on our sex as a part of living in a male supremacist society.

For the sake of argument, let’s consider the opposite situation, in which ‘woman’ is a social category to which human females and human males who are transgender both belong. If ‘woman’ means ‘the group of all humans that identify as women,’ then we still need a description of what ‘woman’ is, or else how do people know whether they identify as one? You can’t identify as something if you don’t know what it is. And surely, if someone feels very strongly that they are something, they can describe what the something is. But the only definition of ‘woman’ that we get from trans activists is the circular definition of ‘anyone who identifies as a woman.’ You can’t use a word inside its definition—to define a word by restating the word is to go around in a circle without getting anywhere. Words describe things, they describe concepts, whether real-life, physical things, or ideas. A woman is a real-life, physical thing. We should be able to observe the set of all ‘women’ and name the characteristics of this category. There should be characteristics that are measurable and observable in real life, since women are not ideas, they are real things that we can see. And there should be a delimiting characteristic that we can use to distinguish a specimen of the group ‘woman’ from those of other similar groups.

If ‘woman’ is a social category to which human females and males who are transgender both belong, then what are the characteristics of this group, and what is the delimiting characteristic that distinguishes this group’s members from other groups? If we take the approach of observing body parts similar to both groups, we come up with all the parts that are common to all humans—arms, legs, heart, lungs, etc. This doesn’t help us distinguish the category ‘woman’ from other categories though. We can’t say that sex stereotypes such as high heels, makeup and dresses are the characteristics of this group, because not all human females wear these things—they aren’t common to all members of the group ‘woman,’ so this doesn’t help us distinguish the category woman from other categories. I’m looking at what there could be in common between all members of the group of all human females and males who are transgender, and the only thing I’m coming up with is the presence of estrogen in the body—whether it is there naturally or artificially. That almost works as a delimiting characteristic, except for one small problem. In trans ideology, any male who claims to be a woman is one, even if he hasn’t started injecting himself with hormones yet, and even if he doesn’t plan on ever injecting himself with hormones. It is sufficient that he ‘identifies with the concept.’ So the ‘presence of estrogen in the body’ characteristic won’t suffice, either, even though that is my best guess. If we are to take transgenderist logic seriously, and any intact male can be a ‘woman,’ then the only common characteristic that we can measure in real life among members of this group is that they are all human beings. There is absolutely no way to distinguish members of the social category ‘woman’ from other categories, according to transgenderist logic, because there is no delimiting characteristic. This is one of the goals of trans activism—to break down the categories ‘man’ and ‘woman’ so that they are meaningless, and anyone can belong to any category.

If we adopt the approach of transgenderism, then two linguistic problems arise that cannot be resolved. The first one is that we lose the ability to easily refer to the group of all humans who will, under normal circumstances, produce ova and bear young, because the word that used to refer exclusively to this group now applies equally to its opposite. The second is that we are unable to define what a woman is, because we are not allowed any delimiting characteristics that we could use to distinguish the category ‘woman’ from other categories. The word ‘woman,’ then, becomes useless, having no discernable meaning. ‘Woman’ simply means any human being.

These problems are linguistic problems that impede clear communication, and they are also sociological problems. If we are unable to talk about the group of all humans who are female, we are not able to recognize their particular biological and social needs. This has real-life implications when, for example, females are unable to use single-sex facilities in public places and unable to gather together to discuss and organize around the experience of being female in a male supremacist society.

I believe that some trans activists are well-intentioned when they attempt to break down the categories of ‘man’ and ‘woman,’ but I think their approach is not the right one. Instead of pretending that ‘man’ and ‘woman’ do not refer to biological categories with real-life differences, trans activists should be breaking down the sex stereotypes that limit the ways that men and women can express themselves. It is not the words ‘man’ and ‘woman’ that we should attack. Those words describe reality and we need them. What needs to be attacked is the idea that human males need to behave and dress in certain ways because they are male, and that human females need to behave and dress in certain ways because they are female.

I believe it is not useful to destroy the words ‘man’ and ‘woman’ by making them meaningless, and in fact, it is downright dangerous, since women are oppressed by men in our patriarchal system. Anyone who is in the trans cult and is saying that there is no difference between trans women and women need to consider the following questions:

  • If there is nothing distinguishing trans women from other women then why are we calling some women trans? How do we know which women to call “trans” if there is no way to tell them apart?
  • Assuming that transgender means transitioning from one gender to the other, then what did trans women transition from? If they were born women and have always been women then why did they need to transition?
  • Do you think we need a word that describes the set of all adult humans who can produce ova and bear young? Why or why not? If so, what do you think this word should be?
  • Can you define the word ‘woman’ without using the word in the definition? (i.e. without using a circular definition.)

I welcome answers to these questions from anyone. However, I think you’ll find that if you are holding on to the idea that trans women are women, you won’t be able to answer them at all.

On leaving the trans cult

When I came out as a lesbian, it was during the time of inclusion, when more and more letters were being added to the LGBTQ alphabet soup because every sexual minority needed representation. It seemed obvious that we should include everyone—since we face ostracism ourselves we know how awful it is to be excluded. We wanted social justice, we wanted love and respect for all minorities. No matter what new letter was added to the “queer” acronym, we included them without question. I met people of all sorts during my time in university—gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, transsexuals, asexuals, gender fluid people, etc. I believed in us working together and gaining acceptance from straight people. During this time I also started learning about feminism. At first, the various feminist bloggers I was reading didn’t seem so different from each other. But over the last few years, we have become divided by a wide gulf. The issues separating us are the sex industry and transgender politics. I’ve never bought into the idea that prostitution is a job that needs to be unionized—I was able to see right away that it is violence. But I bought into transgenderism for quite a while. I believed, as we are taught to believe, that transgender people are just another sexual minority like gays and lesbians who need to fight against discrimination. I was all for helping any minority group to overcome oppression. I was taught that transgender people were born in the wrong body and had to change their body to match their internal image of themselves. I am an open-minded person and I had no problem believing this. But a lot of my feminist sisters were not open to it. I started getting into online fights with other feminists. I wanted them to see that they were being hateful towards a persecuted minority, and that this wasn’t compatible with feminism. I was against “TERFs.” I thought I was doing the right thing.

It was impossible not to do research into transgenderism because it kept coming up over and over and a lot of questions were difficult to answer. I was asked, “What is a woman?” by feminists who challenged me in discussions. I found that I could not answer the question. I read books on transgenderism and finally decided that “woman” is a social category, but this was never easy to explain. I got into bitter fights in comment threads. I called other women transphobic. It felt really, really terrible. We women should have been working together and instead we were ripping each other to pieces. I thought the things radical feminists were saying were exaggerated. It didn’t seem possible that trans women were trying to get into women’s spaces to hurt us because I thought they were just another persecuted sexual minority like gays and lesbians. I thought they were women who just happened to be born with the wrong parts.  Any attack on any letter from the acronym GLBTQ felt like it was also an attack on me, because I was in that acronym, too. I thought that all the people represented in the queer umbrella were the same—innocent people facing discrimination.

Trans activists are constantly on the lookout for anything they should condemn as transphobic. At first it was obvious stuff. Trans people should have the right to employment and housing and health care and should not be subject to violence. Of course! But the things that were condemned as transphobic started to get less obvious. Calling people by the wrong pronouns became phobic, too. Then, failing to put trans people in the center of every conversation became phobic. Then, talking about biology and anatomy became phobic, too. I used to be against “TERFs” until one day I read on Twitter that to imply that females menstruate is transphobic, and I realized—according to this, I am a TERF. I know that females menstruate and that to menstruate is female, and that’s all it takes to be a TERF. The whole thing started to unravel from there. If everyone who knows that females menstruate is a TERF, then everyone is a TERF. Everyone in the entire world. That makes no sense, since most people are not radical feminists.

Knowing that anyone can be called a TERF for even the littlest thing, and that they don’t even have to be a radical feminist in order to be slandered as such, made me take the acronym a lot less seriously. I started getting more curious about what the so-called TERFs were saying. Trans activists claim that radical feminists feel hatred toward trans people, but every time I’ve read a blog post by a radical feminist it has been well-reasoned, clearly explained, backed up with facts, nuanced and compassionate. I have never actually found the phobia that radical feminist writing was supposed to contain. What a lot of radical feminists are actually saying is that they do not agree with transgender politics because transgender politics are often harmful toward women, but they wish no harm upon anyone who is transgender. They are merely looking out for females, which is something that feminists have always done.

When I was arguing against so-called “TERFs” online, they would send me newspaper articles about trans women who had committed crimes against women. I dismissed these at first, thinking they were either exaggerated stories or they were just a few isolated cases. But over time, the isolated cases started to pile up. It started to become a pattern. After a while I couldn’t deny that trans women can be violent toward women, same as men are. Then, reading the words of trans women themselves, on Twitter and other social media, made something very clear: trans women behave exactly like men. Some of them make no attempt to behave the way women do or to understand women at all, and are openly hostile toward us.

The fact that some “trans women” are violent, misogynist men who make no attempt to try to blend in with other women really destroys the “brain sex” theory and the “born in the wrong body” theory. These men are clearly not women. It doesn’t make any sense that such men try to convince everyone that they’re women. The only explanation possible for violent, misogynist men claiming to be women is so they can get into women’s spaces to prey on us and so they can get cookies and attention. It’s obvious their real goal is to infiltrate when you look at their activism. They make no attempt to create spaces for trans women or to advocate for shelters, employment and housing for trans women. All they do is try to get into women-only spaces. And they are indeed getting lots of attention from the media, the medical profession, and from gender activists.

I’ve seen people get into trans ideology and lose their minds completely. I’ve come across people who truly believe that biological sex doesn’t exist and that they cannot access health care unless the doctor validates their gender identity. Imagine that, being in a rich country with available health care, and refusing it just because the doctor wants to treat your physical body based on your actual biology, instead of treating you based on your inner feelings? How ridiculous and nonsensical is it to claim you do not have health care available when you actually do, and when there are other people in poor countries who actually don’t? I’ve come across men who serve in the military, have fantastic STEM careers, father several children, and then claim to have been female all the time. What?! And I’ve seen lesbians who do lesbian activism, participate in the lesbian community, have lesbian weddings, and then all of a sudden say they were men the whole time. A lot of this stuff is pure nonsense, but if you question it you will be called a TERF and told you’re oppressing people. It’s sort of like creationism: inventing false facts that don’t stand up to scrutiny, claiming that science is hateful toward your beliefs, claiming to be persecuted when you can’t force your beliefs on other people, and attempts to silence and destroy non-believers. Transgenderism is a religious cult.

The effect transgenderism has had on feminism is that of a Trojan horse. It slipped quietly in over the years and then exploded in the 2010s, and now feminists are all split up and fighting each other. We spend half our time arguing about whether trans women are women and whether a given bit of feminism is “transphobic” and that means we are no longer fighting for women’s liberation. Feminism is supposed to liberate female humans from oppression. We should be spending zero time worrying about the gender feelings of abusive men. And the fact that transgender activists are usually pro-prostitution should tell you something. These people are fighting for MEN’s rights. Now that I’ve seen everything I’ve seen, I’ve come back to real feminism, the kind that is for women. I’m no longer confused about what a woman is. A woman is an adult female human, same as it’s always been. I’ve learned something very important: my sisters should always come first. I’m very sorry for the hostility I used to express toward women who know that trans women are men. I wish I could take that back. I’ve been using a tag on certain blog posts called “peak trans.” Peak trans is the point at which trans activists finally get so ridiculous that even previous supporters can no longer support them. This is what happened to me and I know it will happen to more of us.