Today I’ve had cramps and bloating and I discovered a really good remedy for period pain is watching awesome YouTube videos of lesbians being lesbians. It makes me smile and takes my mind off the discomfort.
Here’s another video by Mainely Butch:
I noticed that almost everything she says about why she likes being a lesbian is butch- related. For example, she enjoys shopping for clothes in the men’s section and she enjoys the way straight women smile at her and the way men look at her when they see a beautiful woman on her arm.
The reasons why I like being a lesbian are not the same as this because I’m not a butch. I’m going to write about why I like being a lesbian and my perspective is both femme and feminist. I’m not sure what order these items should be in. I’ll write them in the order that I think of them but that’s not necessarily order of importance—these points are all important.
I love having sex with a woman. I did try sex with men when I was younger and it was boring and didn’t work for me. When I’m with a woman, she has a body that I’m really into and I love touching her so much, I can sometimes orgasm just from touching her. And she can bring me to orgasm as many times as she wants. I love that sex with women can feel never-ending, because you can be intimate in subtle ways throughout the day, kissing and casually touching each other, and then you can give each other pleasure in an unlimited way whenever you want. It doesn’t feel to me like we ever stop being intimate. And I love that it’s unstructured—you aren’t limited to specific roles or scripts.
I love having a “husband” who’s female. My partner does all the things a husband would do for a wife, like driving the truck, fixing furniture and appliances, etc, except she’s female. I love that I can live with a woman who can do everything a man can, and I love that we don’t need a man in any way. I love that she takes so much care with the things she builds and repairs and does a way better job than men do.
I love that I can go through my whole life not using any birth control. I don’t have to worry about the hormonal effects of the pill, or getting an I.U.D inserted, or being scared of pregnancy. I’m glad nobody is injecting me with semen and my vagina stays in its natural state all the time. I’m glad that sex is divorced from reproduction for me, and it’s just for fun and I don’t have to have babies.
I’m glad that my home is permanent female-only space. I can go home every day knowing that there are no men in my home, and I can display radical feminist books on my shelves and I can hold radical feminist meetings in safety and speak my mind and never have to explain or justify my beliefs to a dude.
I’m glad that my partner doesn’t think that certain tasks are my job to do because I’m a wife. We each do half the chores and what we decide to do reflects our interests and abilities rather than what sex we are. And speaking of household chores, I’d be really resentful if I had to do free labor in the home for a man. I’m glad that the time and energy that I put in around the house benefits another woman, rather than a man.
I’m glad that my partner knows what menstruation is like, so when I’m feeling hormonal she doesn’t make fun of me and think I’m crazy, she does helpful things and is nice to me, because she knows she has felt the same way.
A few points of Mainely Butch’s that I agreed with: women smell better, lesbians are powerful, women are better at conversation, women have intense passionate relationships, and women are smart!
The last point MB made is that being a lesbian is so good because it means being who she is. That was a beautiful note to end on and I feel the same way. I’m so happy to be in a gay-friendly area and to be able to live my life how I want. It’s beautiful!
Hellz yeah! 😀
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Lol you stole my comment! 😅
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Heh, heh, heh … the highest form of flattery. 😀
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Well thank you Widds! 🙂
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Wow, that was really powerful!! Thanks for sharing. Gives me a better understanding and appreciation for my lesbian sisters. Lots of Love to you all.
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It amazes me that women are now freer to choose lifestyles not so obliterated by male narratives. The Power of Womanhood IS paramount and The Future definitely is Female…
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Lovely. And so true. Enjoy celebrating yourself and your home with your partner : )
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Wow, you have found another older, but still true, video of mine! Thank you for your compliments and support! I appreciate you very much! Glad that despite our differences sometimes that we have managed to make a friendship work out of this! Rockon PS!!! ~MB
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I had a lot of fun watching your “butch bonding” videos that you made with a friend. I’m still waiting for the answer to “What do butches want”?
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ah, that age old question…I am still trying to formulate an answer, but the biggest things I want are loyalty, honesty, and passion.
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I was going to say boobs, trucks, and power tools lol
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Yup those are spot on too!
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Sent you an email.
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you’ve convinced me… i’m coming back as a lesbian next life….
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the whole household repair thing upsets me. My son is only in kindergarten but spent a whole day with his dad repairing an old boat. If he had been a girl, it probably wouldn’t have even occurred to his dad to include him. I know I barely ever had an opportunity to get near a screwdriver.
Growing up, I was consumed with jealousy as it seemed to me that boys were just born with this special gift that I was completely clueless about. Today I still become filled with anger at my own helplessness facing the slightest household repairs.
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Beautiful post.
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So many advantages. It makes you wonder why all women aren’t lesbians. When people are the same gender they can understand each other better because they have the same struggles.
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