Transwomen’s lesbophobia

There is a long history of stupid dudes (and occasionally, stupid straight women too) wondering why it is that lesbians will use dildos to have sex but still don’t want to have sex with men. It should be obvious to anyone that the reason lesbians don’t want to have sex with men is because we are exclusively interested in women and aren’t interested in men. Asking “why don’t lesbians have sex with men” is as dumb as asking “why do you get wet when you jump into the pool.”

Transwomen, like other men, get pretty enraged when lesbians don’t want to have sex with them. They, too, use the silly argument “but you use strap-ons” to try to convince lesbians that it totally makes sense to convert to heterosexuality. (Not that that would ever work!)

Someone on Tumblr named “exterminateterfs” whose own page is now deleted, wrote the following comment, which I have seen many times now from the trans community, in one form or another.

“it’s not that deep, if a lesbian will fuck dildos or strap ons (aka 99% of lesbians) but not a girl’s dick then she’s prejudiced and transmisogynistic and at this point deserves to die painfully just like all other fascists.”

It’s really popular these days for the trans community to target lesbians and tell us that our preference for other women is transphobic. (Take Riley J Dennis, for example.)

The majority of men who identify as transwomen are heterosexual men, and they can be just as misogynist and homophobic as any MRA.

In this context, “exterminate terfs” means that the Tumblr user wishes violence against any women who say no to men, with the intention of silencing any other woman who might wish to say no to men. This is the position of abusive men and anti-feminist extremists. This Tumblr user believes that “99% of lesbians” use strap-ons, a statistic that is pulled right out of thin air, and is probably based on what he has seen in “lesbian” porn, which is porn where straight women act out what men imagine to be “lesbian sex.”

Men’s rage when women don’t want to have sex with them is fueled by their narcissism and their belief that women exist for their pleasure, and not as people in our own right.

Comparing women’s homosexual orientation toward other women to “fascism” is not only a ridiculous hyperbole, it’s straight-up homophobia. It’s a type of homophobia directed at lesbians by misogynist men. Can you imagine anyone suggesting to a straight man that it’s “fascist” for him to take no sexual interest in other men?

Here’s some useful facts about lesbians and strap-ons, in no particular order:

  • A strap-on dildo is a fun accessory, and can be very enjoyable, but it isn’t necessary for sex between women. Sex is also very enjoyable without any props or equipment and with just women’s natural bodies.
  • There is no penis “missing” from sex between women and so a dildo does not attempt to replace a missing penis. There is no need to replace something that wasn’t necessary in the first place.
  • A piece of inanimate silicone bears very little resemblance to a human body part that belongs to men and produces sperm which can cause pregnancy in women.
  • Some women enjoy penetration and some don’t, regardless of our sexual orientation. It’s possible to be a homosexual who enjoys penetration or a heterosexual who doesn’t. If a woman enjoys being vaginally penetrated by her female lover, using either her fingers or a toy, that doesn’t indicate heterosexuality.
  • Lesbians who enjoy being penetrated don’t even necessarily need a dildo either—fingers work great! The only people who don’t understand that fingers can satisfy a woman are particularly stupid heterosexual men who are terrible in bed.

Every time a transwoman makes a comment about lesbians being “fascists” for not wanting dick or that his dick is a “girl dick” or any of this other nonsense, he proves that he is 100% male-brained, and is a particularly idiotic and hateful man.

27 thoughts on “Transwomen’s lesbophobia

  1. I do not find the details of gay male sex (or lesbian sex, for that matter) particularly riveting, because I understand that it isn’t about me and really isn’t any of my business (as long as it’s not involving abusive practices, in which case it becomes, in a sense, everybody’s business).

    Any man who carries on like this about lesbians is a rape fantasist and deserves to be shunned as such.

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  2. lol, 99% of lesbians use strap-ons/dildos during sex? Okay tumblr, sure, seems legit. But – I’m not sure I personally would want to draw statistics as to what constitutes realistic lesbian sex based on all those M rated stories on

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    • Sick burn!

      I don’t get why dildos gets brought up a lot. I don’t use those and I know a lot of other lesbians who don’t. I’m guessing porn.

      I will say you can’t get pregnant or get an STD from a piece of plastic and a piece of plastic isn’t an annoying, entitled, rapist of a man.

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  3. This is so bloody stupid. How about, if 100 women don’t want to have sex with you, maybe that’s evidence you’re not actually a woman! What about pheromones, has anybody done research on them? I understand they’re a factor in sexual attraction. Presumably lesbians are attracted to female pheromones?

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      • After I wrote that comment I also thought of other stuff — like sexual attraction is not purely about the genitals. It starts with something ephemeral and not even physical. Maybe something about the personality? And when it’s sexual, it’s a whole body experience. The whole body is involved. Anyone who doesn’t know that should unsubscribe from their porn channels and read some books about human (and maybe specifically female) sexuality.

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    • Humans do NOT have pheromones per se. The same way that hyper allergic people say they are allergic to scent, they can be allergic to non scents. Molecules in the atmosphere that can cause an allergic reaction most often do not have a scent. Most of the studies mislabled pheromones for humans are studies of scent, not pheromones.
      Scientists have been trying to demonstrate “pheromone activity” with humans for a century and still there is no strong evidence for it.

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  4. Reading your last article right before this made me think: I find it interesting that the Trans and the Queer movements are both trying, in their own way, to frame sexual orientation as a choice.

    On the one side you have people like Riley J. Dennis claiming its a preference, and on the other you have sites like Autostraddle saying “everyone is a little bit gay,” and that sexual orientation is fluid.

    They might have different reasons for doing this, but I just thought it was strange that they’re both doing it. (although, isn’t this the same thing the religious right tries to do, frame same-sex attraction as an immoral lifestyle choice? I wonder if there’s any connection between the three of these…)

    Anyway, both of these are stellar articles Purple Sage! Your blog is great! Keep up the amazing work!

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  5. I know this isn’t exactly the most intelligent example, but I remember an episode of MTV’s Undressed, where a guy was first trying to convince a lesbian she must really like men too, and then curious as to how two women could have sex. When she showed him a dildo, he asked if that meant she really wanted a guy. She said a woman having sex with a man and using a vibrator didn’t necessarily want a second man there.

    I’m far from the only one who finds it creepy and hypocritical how these MTTs only want lesbians, instead of dating one another. I once heard an MTT prostitute answer that question with, “No, that’s gross.” He elaborated that he didn’t think MTTs were gross, but rather the thought of having sex with another MTT.

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  6. It’s just the same old “love dick, submit to men, or we wanna kill you” bullshit just in a new, liberal friendly package. It pains me to see so many of my liberal and left friends fall for this garbage.

    Do they threaten gay men this way? Or are death threats for women only?

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    • I’ve seen a little bit of women (actual women) who are supporters of transgenderism, criticizing gay men for not dating “transmen.” I’ve also asked gay men in a gay men’s group about how they would feel if this was done to them, and they answered with variations on “no way, no how.”

      Transgenderism is not for women, at least not in the same way that it is for men.

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      • Most trans men who like men do not want to be penetrated or even have their partners go near their genitalia, so it is not an issue. They are very intimidated by the gay male community and largely date each other or queer-identified gay-leaning bisexual men who are often gender non conforming in some way and don’t fit in to the masc-obsessed gay community themselves.

        As for trans women, I believe anyone who is obsessed with using their penis to penetrate a woman is not a trans woman at all, no matter how they “identify”. These creepy, rapey assholes, no matter how they dress are just typical males who are trying to exploit a seeming loophole to prong lesbians. This is why trans should be defined strictly to only include those with gender dysphoria who despise and do not want to use their birth genitalia.

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        • I’m with ya there, BeaglesandBengals. A lot of guys who identify as “transwomen” are not transwomen AT ALL. I’m always wondering when people with gender dysphoria will start kicking the fetishists and creeps out of their movement, and so far very few of them are taking any interest. Most of them refuse to differentiate between people who are truly struggling with dysphoria and people who want to cross dress for a sexual thrill. This is so very harmful. There is a huge backlash rising against transgender bathroom rights and it’s in part because the trans cult wants LITERALLY ANY MALE to have access to women’s washrooms even if they are in no way different from other men. If they would at least define what transgender means and provide some CRITERIA that people have to meet, then we could actually have an honest conversation about how to accommodate people with actual dysphoria. The autogynephiles are making things LESS SAFE for gender dysphoric people. Even trans people should be reaching peak trans at this point!


        • Cathy and Elizabeth wrote a letter about this, years ago, in which they said people should not be able to claim this status unless they were serious about medical transitioning. This runs into problems with not wanting to encourage medical transitioning, but at least it was a coherent approach.

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        • Yeah, this is one of the many reasons why transgender ideology falls apart. It’s a fair point that people with dysphoria shouldn’t be required to medically transition. It’s also a fair point to say that some of them will never be able to access it. So then what? You either have to open the door for absolutely anyone to identify as trans for any reason, or you have to force people to fit a narrative and get specific medical intervention. I can see why both these options are bad. What feminists are advocating for, and what people are calling us “bigots” for, is that everyone should just be able to express themselves as they want, and we should maintain the reality of biological sex and the need for sex-based protections, and just allow gender noncomforming people to use the facilities meant for their sex and fight against the bullying they will receive for it.

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  7. Very well stated! In our community I find that we constantly talk about not being accepted, then in the same breath we judge ourselves and others within the community. I particularly enjoyed:

    “Some women enjoy penetration and some don’t, regardless of our sexual orientation. It’s possible to be a homosexual who enjoys penetration or a heterosexual who doesn’t. If a woman enjoys being vaginally penetrated by her female lover, using either her fingers or a toy, that doesn’t indicate heterosexuality.”

    Within the lesbian community there has been some very ignorant rule, that if you enjoy penetration that some how makes you less lesbian. I don’t know who makes this stuff up. I too think this is another idiotic idea that was snatched clean out of thin air!


  8. I’m heterosexual female and like penetration but not the part where we share liquids, now I prefer my own fingers then dealing with egocentric men that think choking and anal sex is the norm.

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  9. Wow! I love this post, it really gets across what I’ve been trying to explain for years!

    I think it’s time for individuals to stop sexualising sexuality and just let them live their lives!


  10. … if I’ve doubled commented my bad! But I can’t seem to see my comment haha.

    But this post is amazing, it’s exactly what I’ve been trying to explain for years but couldn’t get it across!

    I think it’s time for everyone to stop sexualising sexuality and let people have their preferences and choices.

    Will that happen? Probably not, but we can hope!


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