A comment that didn’t get through moderation was asked of me yesterday when I explained my “agenda.”
“Am I understanding you correctly: It’s okay to be lesbian/homosexual but not transgender?
So what did the blind person say to the able bodied? “It’s cool to be blind as long as you’re not deaf!”
This question is a rather unfortunate oversimplification of the issue. If I have to simply answer a yes or no question, “is it okay to be transgender,” then the answer is yes. Of course it’s okay—there’s nothing inherently wrong with making body modifications or looking the way you want to look. That’s not a moral issue, it’s a matter of personal preference.
I criticize transgenderism not because there’s anything wrong with individual people who make body modifications, but because the politics of transgenderism are misogynist, homophobic, and sexist, and are taking away women’s rights.
So, to the dude who asked me this question, no you were definitely not understanding me correctly.
You ask this question as if homosexuals and transgenders are two mutually exclusive groups that I am treating differently. However, there is a lot of overlap between these groups because a lot of people who are transitioning are actually same-sex attracted. In particular, a very high percentage of FtMs are same-sex attracted. You can’t separate lesbians from FtMs because many FtMs are lesbians, or at least they would be if they weren’t determined to “live as men.”
I choose to support masculine women as women and as dykes who are perfect the way they are and don’t need to change. Dykes are not men—not if they wear men’s clothes, not if they shave their heads, not if they use strap-ons, not if they fix cars, not if they work in the skilled trades, and not if they get mistaken for men by clueless strangers. They’re women and they’re not “doing woman wrong,” they’re doing woman fabulously. The idea that women who are considered “masculine” are really men trapped in women’s bodies or have “male brains” is a sexist and homophobic idea that is over a century old. (19th century sexologists invented the idea that homosexuals are “inverted” and that we have male souls in women’s bodies. That’s because they thought homosexuality was a disorder and they didn’t know what caused it.)
Furthermore, there are many different types of people in the trans community and so asking a question that assumes that all trans people are the same will bring a useless answer. There are some trans people with dysphoria, some with internalized homophobia, some with sexual fetishes, and some who don’t know how to fit in because they can’t perform their gender role. (And people might have more than one of these characteristics at the same time.) If you really want a useful discussion, then you have to ask better questions, like, “is it effective to deal with dysphoria by making body modifications?” and “is it okay to steal underwear from your female family members and masturbate into them?” and “is it okay to identify as a woman because you are a man who doesn’t feel comfortable being macho and tough?” and “is it okay to pretend to be the opposite sex so that you won’t be seen as gay?”
Here are some things that are okay:
- Wearing the clothes and haircut that you like is okay
- Cross dressing for sexual purposes in the privacy of your own home is okay
- Refusing to perform the gender role you were assigned is okay
- Being homosexual is okay
Here are some things that are not okay:
- Promoting sexist ideas about “male brains” and “female brains” is not okay
- Taking away women’s rights to sex-segregated spaces is not okay
- Forcing everyone around you to participate in your masturbation fantasy is not okay
- Claiming that homosexual people are really supposed to be the opposite sex is not okay
As for body modifications, I’m on the fence about that one. I’m a person who doesn’t even believe in piercing my ears or painting my nails, so naturally I don’t think anyone should take cross-sex hormones or have cosmetic surgeries either. However, humans from all different cultures and time periods have practiced body modification, mostly in the form of tattoos and piercings, and I know people are going to do whatever they want regardless of my opinion. I usually just state that body modifications aren’t necessary, without stating that they should be forbidden.
The main thing that I keep saying over and over is this: you are just fine the way you are, it’s the culture that is a problem. It’s quite incomprehensible that people find this bigoted or hateful.