If you want an excellent analysis of the Orlando shooting, check out Julie Bindel’s interview on Feminist Current where she names the things we should actually be talking about in this situation: primarily, MALE VIOLENCE. Also, the root causes of anti-gay bigotry, which are MISOGYNY and PATRIARCHY.
If you want the worst response possible to the Orlando shooting, check out the woman who has written an article lamenting that she doesn’t get to be one of the people who are oppressed by anti-gay mass shooters.
“When I read about Orlando, I was surrounded by straight people. Well meaning straight people, yes, allies, yes, but straight people all the same.
I was surrounded by straight people because I was at my house with my husband and my daughter. I spend a lot of time around straight people (thats what I get for marrying a cishet man), but I noticed it more today than I have any other morning. When I heard the news, I started counting down the time until I could be around queer people.”
Oh, you poor thing! You were at home with your husband and daughter when a large group of gays and lesbians were shot and killed, how awful for you!
“Being a bi woman means occupying a lot of weird liminal space. In that way we are very queer….we don’t fit well into boxes. Too gay to be straight, too straight to be gay, we are often locked out of the resources and support meant for the queer community due to biphobia and erasure while being pornified and objectified by the patriarchal male gaze of heteronormative culture. It’s no wonder that bi women are suffering from such a serious mental health crisis.”
Yes, it’s so “queer” of you to be a conventionally feminine woman married to a man. How terrible that you don’t have access to “resources” that are meant for the “queer community.” As I’ve said before, queer used to mean homosexual, but it doesn’t anymore. Now, queer means absolutely anyone who wants to claim an identity as an oppressed person. You can be a pretty, feminine woman in a heterosexual relationship and still be queer, even though at no point will you ever be treated the way homosexuals are treated.
“Being bi comes with the double edged sword of “passing.” Because I’m married to a man, and because of my high femme gender presentation, most people will assume I am straight. I do not have to worry that when I hold my spouse’s hand in public that someone will beat me. I do not worry about the state refusing to recognize my marriage. I do not worry about losing my job for being queer. I do not worry that a car driving by will roll down the window and scream slurs at me about my orientation.”
She actually knows that she does not face discrimination because of her sexual orientation, but she is still writing an article making the Orlando massacre all about her feelings. Pardon me while I roll my eyes all the way up to the ceiling.
“But the horrible thing about “passing privilege” is the closeting, the erasure. And never have I felt that so keenly as I feel it today while I mourn Orlando.”
These days the worst thing that can possibly happen to a person is being “erased.” Somehow, the fact that every shop clerk and passerby on the street doesn’t immediately know that she is bisexual is a “horrible” thing because it “erases” her. When she sees other people being actually oppressed in a way that she is not, she feels erased because she isn’t receiving that kind of oppression. Do you see what is happening here? Being a part of an oppressed class of people is now cool. It’s something people want. Instead of fighting against oppression on behalf of classes of people, Americans are now trying to get a piece of the oppression pie, because that’s what the cool kids are doing. This is deplorable.
“Thank God for the radical queer community, the people who helped me heal from some of my guilt about not being “gay enough”. They came through for me in the past, and they are coming through again, reminding me of who I am. Reminding me that I count. Reminding me that I am enough, that my emotions are valid, that my existence is resistance, that I deserve to be here.”
You needed to heal from the guilt of not being gay enough??? What the FUCK???
Forty-nine people are killed and this woman needs to give herself a pep talk about how she is here, she exists, and she counts. Well, good for you! But forty nine people are not here anymore, because they were in a gay club when an anti-gay shooter came to kill people, not at home with their straight families like you were.
It’s amazing how a mass shooting happens and people respond with “But what about ME, I’m oppressed too!” Imagine if we actually used our time and energy to fight against male violence, masculinity and patriarchy so that this sort of thing wouldn’t happen any more? But no, because doing actual hard work to change the world isn’t appealing for people who only care about their own feelings.