As the bathroom debate heats up, the level of discourse surrounding it sinks lower and lower. People are either fighting to save trans lives or they’re hateful bigots who don’t want to allow them to pee. All nuance is lost, nobody cares what anybody’s actual position is or where they’re coming from, they just want to slam them immediately. This is not getting us anywhere. Just the other day I read on a lesbian’s blog that radical feminists are the same as the right wing and that we’re all bigots who are preventing people from using washrooms safely. For fuck’s sake!
I would like to clarify a few things:
- I am a radical feminist, and I want everyone to have a safe place to pee. I am fully on board with single-stall unisex washrooms so that everyone can access them without worrying about their gender.
- I do NOT want trans people “exterminated” or to die of suicide. I want them to lead happy, healthy lives.
- I do not hate or fear trans people. I’ve interacted with several trans people before in real life and I treat them with the same respect as I’d treat anyone else. I merely disagree with the popular trans dogma that is being enforced these days by certain activists. Disagreement is not hatred.
- Conversations about bathroom bills should be nuanced discussions that are grounded in reality. There is such a thing as autogynephilia, there is such a thing as men who dress as women and abuse actual women, and these need to be a part of the discussion or else it’s not an honest discussion.
- Radical feminists have very little in common with conservatives. Our views only overlap in a couple of small places and for the most part we are the opposite. You can also draw parallels between the views of liberal feminists and MRAs. (Both believe in the decriminalization of pimps and johns, for example). That doesn’t mean that we go around saying liberal feminists are the same as MRAs because they’re also very different in many ways. (Okay, I’m sure that a few people on the Internet are saying that libfems are the exact same as MRAs. You can find someone saying anything on the Internet if you look for it. But I’m not saying that because I believe in nuanced, honest discussion.) Here is a chart showing the differences between radical feminists and conservatives, in case you’re not sure about this:
Now, I know I make fun of certain trans people on this blog. I make fun of people who are making absolutely ridiculous claims, and I make fun of men who claim to be lesbians or women of colour (which are also ridiculous claims that are offensive toward lesbians and women of colour). Maybe I shouldn’t do this, who knows, but I do it because women need to know what these men are saying and because we have a right to laugh at our oppressors, especially when they’re being particularly ridiculous. I never make fun of people who are trying to share their experiences of dysphoria in honest ways. I really appreciate when people with dysphoria add intelligent insight into the discussion. The detransitioners and butch lesbians I follow on WordPress are really fantastic people who I’m happy to know.
You could compare this whole thing to an atheist making fun of religious people on a blog. I don’t have much interest in making fun of religious people, but they make ridiculous claims too. Sometimes they try to take away women’s rights due to claims that an invisible, magical man in the sky wants it that way. This is completely insane and offensive, just like it’s insane and offensive to take away women’s rights just because certain men have sparkly, magical feelings inside. However, just because I mock someone’s nonsensical claims of magical gods or magical genderfeelz, doesn’t mean I want that person dead, or their civil rights taken away. People with stupid beliefs of all sorts have the right to safely access education, housing, health care and employment and should not be discriminated against for their stupid beliefs.
We also have the right to free speech, which is why I can say what I want to, and since I have published my opinions on a blog, other people can mock me right back. There are currently several threads on Reddit where they are making fun of me, usually while misrepresenting my actual position, and where they call me a stupid idiot who is doing feminism wrong and is oppressing people by voicing my belief that human biology exists. They are completely welcome to talk this way if they want and they can have lots of fun with it. However, I would expect that both them and I should be able to keep all our civil rights after we have trashed each other on the Internet—I don’t want anyone’s rights taken way, no matter their beliefs.