Special snowflakism is all over the world now! In this Guardian article, young people in several countries share how they label their personalities and clothing styles as “genders.”
The gender-fluid generation: young people on being male, female or non-binary
“Some days Daniela Esquivel Asturias, 21, wakes up feeling feminine and puts on a dress or lipstick. But on others Asturias feels much more masculine and the thought of wearing a skirt induces an overwhelming sense of dysmorphia. “I would be equally comfortable with a male or female body. My male personality is more outgoing than my female one. It’s like having both male and female energies and some days a mix of both,” Asturias says.The student from Costa Rica is gender fluid, and doesn’t identify with one gender, instead fluctuating between feeling more male or female.”
So this woman has more than one personality, and one of them is male, apparently. I don’t buy into the idea that there is such thing as a “male personality” or a “female personality.” Everyone has their own personality, regardless of their sex. If you are female, then any personality you have is a legitimate personality for a woman. Same for men. The idea that all females have “feminine” personalities is sexism, and is untrue. Also, there is no such thing as “male energy” or “female energy.” It’s a normal human experience to feel differently on different days—who on Earth feels the same way all the time? I certainly don’t.
“It’s hard to explain, Asturias says, before referring to the way society tends to define gender, on a spectrum. “At one end is being male and the other female, and you kind of move between the two, and usually remain in the middle.”
You can’t actually move between male and female, no. Male and female are biological categories that refer to the reproductive function of your body, and they do not change. You cannot wake up on Monday with an ova-producing body and then wake up on Tuesday with a sperm-producing body. What she is actually referring to is a sense of style and a mood that fluctuate from day to day. Because society labels every aspect of human experience as being either strictly for males or strictly for females, people end up interpreting their feelings as “male” and “female” when actually any of these experiences can be felt by either sex. We are all in between the polar opposites of masculinity and femininity because none of us conform perfectly to society’s sexist stereotypes.
“Young people are increasingly challenging conventional gender stereotypes – half the US millennials surveyed by Fusion agree gender isn’t limited to male and female.”
That just demonstrates how confused everyone is about what gender means. Gender is the set of rules and expectations placed on people based on their reproductive sex—it comes in two forms, masculinity and femininity. The way to challenge gender stereotypes is to refuse to follow the rules and to fight the idea that females are always feminine and that males are always masculine. Gender certainly is limited to two forms—masculinity and femininity, but of course, human personalities come in all kinds.
“In the case of Payton Quinn, 24, gender is ever evolving. Quinn gravitated towards masculine clothes as a teenager. “I cut my hair short and started binding my chest. I tried my best to pass as male.” This behaviour caused other kids to pick fights, and after getting badly injured Quinn felt forced back to presenting as a woman. But, after striking up a new relationship two years ago, Quinn felt strong enough to appear as male again.”
So a young woman tried to wear the clothes that were comfortable for her and because they did not follow the social construct of femininity, other people harassed her. There is always someone around to punish those who do not comply with the gender role that is assigned to people based on their sex. Obeying the rules of gender meant less harassment for her. However, when she dresses the way she wants to, she’s not “appearing as male,” she’s appearing as herself. Wearing comfortable clothing does not change your sex.
About a MtF transwoman:
“Strazds has faced some stigmatisation. “Most of the people who are transphobic kinda just avoid me so I don’t have to deal with it much. I mean there’s creepy and rude people here and there, but that’s kinda it. I gravitate towards good queers, so most of the people in my life are queer people with good gender politics.”
GOOD QUEERS! Ha ha ha ha ha! You wouldn’t want to go near those bad queers, like the kind who understand human biology and sex-based oppression! Come to think of it, “bad queers” sound like people I’d like to meet!
“Kyle McQuillan, 27, from the US, is male, but was born female. He identifies as a gay man, saying: “Sometimes I feel more gender fluid, but never female. It’s who I have been my entire life.” . . . McQuillan adds that dating is also challenging as women are afraid they’ll be labelled lesbian. “I’ve heard similar stories from trans women [about men being seen as gay]. But there are also those who stand up for us in the gay community. A friend and I went to a strip club, both of us are transgender, and were told we needed to come back on ladies night if we wanted a lap dance, and a friend of ours, a gay man, also a drag queen, stood up for us. Even in the gay community we experience discrimination, but the more that our voices are heard, the more acceptance we are receiving.”
Okay, what? This woman identifies as a gay man but is dating women? That’s definitely what I’m reading here. She says she’s a gay man, but then she says that she has a hard time dating women because they’ll be afraid of being labeled lesbian, right? I think the only way I could understand this is if I got high before reading it.
You know, it’s not really surprising that females who date other females would be labeled lesbian, since THAT’S WHAT A LESBIAN IS. The question is, if you are a lesbian, why are you identifying as a gay man?? My brain hurts.
Now, the thing about the strip club. She actually thinks she was discriminated against for not being accepted into a strip club as a man! *headdesk*
Let’s talk about discrimination, shall we? A strip club is a place where females are objectified for the benefit of males. Males get to enjoy the power and privilege they have which allows them to financially coerce women into stripping for them, and they also tend to harass and assault the female performers, some of whom are being prostituted. This is discrimination against all females, in fact—not just those females who wish they were male.
This FtM figures that if she “identifies” the right way, she can gain access to the privileges that the male sex class enjoys. Nope. It turns out that male privilege is reserved only for males—females don’t get it. Men believe women are sexual objects for them to use, because they are taught so culturally and also legally allowed to get away with this behavior. All women are targets of sex-based oppression, no matter what outfit they’re wearing or how they “identify.”
“The Guardian received 104 responses from people who felt gender fluid to a greater or lesser extent. For some this even meant fluctuating between a multitude of genders. Cam, 20, from Ireland has experienced as many as 10 different genders, including male, female, bigender and agender.”
Jesus Christ. Ten different genders? Well, I have ONE HUNDRED GENDERS! Take that! I am a better queer than you now!
“Allie, 21, from the UK, who defines as agenderflux says some of her family and friends are still learning. “A lot of older people aren’t as used to talking about non-binary genders as my generation are, so a little more patience is needed for them, I guess. I’ve been told some people in older generations have been confused between terms and different non-binary identities.”
I’m in my early thirties, and I don’t have any patience for people who call themselves “agenderflux” either.
“Clo, 23, from the US – who identifies as transmasculine, gender fluid, non-binary, and queer trans – says their family cannot accept them for who they are. “People think, just because the words to describe us are new, that being non-binary is a fad. But people have always lived and felt non-binary – there’s just a label for it now. And behind that label is a community, people who respect you and lift you up. We’re not a trend. We’re humans and this is integral to our sense of self. Acknowledging our humanity and identity doesn’t harm you.”
Sure, people have always expressed their personalities, and people’s personalities have never fit neatly into masculine or feminine, so yeah, we’ve always been “non-binary.” That’s because masculinity and femininity are social constructs that don’t reflect the way real people are. We’re all in the middle of those two stereotypes. What is a fad, however, is having to call yourself something like “transmasculine, gender fluid, non-binary, and queer trans” just to express the fact that you like to cut your hair short and wear baggy clothes. People might have an easier time accepting you if you dropped the incoherent and confusing identity categories and just decided to be yourself without any need to label it.
I wear different outfits every day, too! I have some clothes that are feminine and some that are masculine. People call me by female pronouns because when they see me they can tell I’m female. I have short hair which is currently dyed purple, and I appear anywhere between feminine and androgynous, and this doesn’t require a label at all, it’s just the way I look. I’m an adult human female, no matter what I do with my hair and clothes. There is no reason why I need to label my sense of style with a “gender” category and set of pronouns. That would be silly and unnecessary.