Thanks to Transgender Reality for writing this post about women asking the asktransgender reddit if they are trans because they like wearing boy’s clothes.
This woman asked:
“So I’m 19 right now and identify as female. Ever since I was younger I’ve always leaned towards the masculine side. I’ve always worn boys clothes, for as long as I can remember. When I was maybe 10/11, I would wear boxers and I felt very comfortable in them. When I reached 7th or 8th grade, I tried to start wearing female clothes. I never felt comfortable in girls underwear or shirts (I do usually wear girls jeans). When I was in 5th grade (elementary school) or maybe a little younger, I tried pushing for my parents to start calling me Joey after one of my favorite tv characters.
Fast forward a few years and I’ve recently come out as gay. I always wear boys clothes. I got a haircut and feel ten times more comfortable with it. She/her pronouns sort of make me uncomfortable, but I get embarrassed when people say he/him infront of my friends. I really lean towards the name Nick. I’ve always been big into video games and I’ll always make a male character, etc.
Recently I’ve been introduced to the Trans community and I’ve been watching a lot of videos on transitions so now I’m sort of confused with everything.
Any feedback would be highly appreciated. Thanks!”
In fact, I do have some feedback, and it’s different from what the transgenderists said. She was told “this is fairly typical of trans people” and diagnosed as trans by the commenters there. In fact, one of them even called her “textbook trans.”
My feedback is that this sounds fairly typical of lesbians.
First of all, she actually states that she identifies as female and is gay. Absolutely no one in trans land told her that she is a typical lesbian, of course, because in trans land, everyone in the world is trans except for the Evil Cis Overlords.
I’ve explained this all before, but I will explain it again. I, too, have short hair, and it was a significant experience when I cut it short for the first time. I, too, like wearing boxer shorts and I wear men’s shirts when I can find ones that fit. This is really normal for lesbians. Lots of us like wearing men’s clothes! Men’s clothes are comfortable, practical and dignified, so it’s no surprise people, including women, like wearing them. I don’t feel comfortable in lots of the clothes aimed at women. I rarely wear a dress. When I’m in a clothing store I walk right past the dresses as if they’re not even there, and what I really like looking at are the men’s clothes—they are much more appealing! I also have a female partner who wears mostly men’s clothes. Both of us are women, and typical lesbians.
If you are a woman who is attracted to women and presents as masculine, you don’t need medical intervention and you don’t need testosterone or new pronouns. You are already perfect the way you are and you don’t need to pretend to be male. You are a normal lesbian, and being a lesbian is fantastic.