Oh good! I was just hoping that a man would explain to me what it’s like to have a vagina! This transwoman got his penis inverted and he helpfully explains here how his inverted penis is almost exactly the same as a vagina. Awesome.
“Twelve months have passed now [after getting SRS] and every day is a new, exciting experience for me, although nothing compares to those first few minutes. So these are twelve things that I’ve learned so far, in my first twelve months with my vagina.”
I really just fucking can’t wait to hear what you have learned about having a vagina, dude!
“1. Looks aren’t everything. I think I watched too much porn when I was younger or I stared up too many dresses of Barbies. Prior to my surgery, if I’d had a choice to design my kitten, I would’ve asked for very-little-to-no definition of my labia. I wouldn’t want any suspicion in a swimsuit that my vagina may be a penis. But vaginas are like snowflakes, okay? None are identical. It would be weird if they were! Some women have more definition than others; some may have a visible clitoris; and with others you may have to do a little more searching. My left labia is puffier than my right and my right labia is a bit darker in my peachy salmon shade. Am I considering labiaplasty? No!! Because she’s cute, she has character, and she’s mine!!”
Okay, I had to go and vomit when I saw the words “my kitten.” Now that I’m back, let’s take a look at this paragraph. Yes, dude, you have definitely watched too much porn. I can see that when I look at your selfies because you have a pornified idea of what women are. And you wish you had designed your “kitten” to look like a pornified vulva without noticeable labia. I was just talking about how labiaplasty is a product of porn and pedophile culture recently—the adult vulva without hair or labia is designed to look like the vulva of a child. I’m an actual adult woman, and I certainly don’t want a Barbie-doll vulva. I’m happy with my labia and hair, thanks. And no one has ever mistaken me for a dude when I’m wearing a swimsuit, because I’m a woman.
Numbers 2 and 3 are both about the joys of orgasm after having genital surgery and I’m not going there. Moving on to number 4:
“4. Commando is the way to go. Before my surgery, on average, I had to spend 20 minutes every morning cutting out strips of duct tape, wrapping my penis in toilet paper, taking that tape, sticking it from my shaft, pulling it all the way up into my ass and repeat. I used to call this joyful routine “tucking.” Oh? My testicles fell out of their inguinal canal? Time to rip the tape off, and start all over! Now when I wake up, after I peak under the covers to confirm that my vagina is still, well, there, I brew coffee, and prance around in nothing but nothing. And it feels so good. When I walk to the store I sometimes put underwear on underneath my dress and sometimes I don’t. But when I don’t, I feel THE BREEZE. Total. Liberation. Thank you, Mother Nature for stopping by and saying “Hey girl!!”
You know, I never prance around naked to celebrate the joy of having another day with my vagina. That sounds like something an autogynephile would do. My vagina is just another part, like my elbow or my ankle, and it’s not that exciting to me that I have one. Sure, if I’m in the middle of sexytimes then it’s lots of fun, but most of the time I don’t think about the fact that it’s there. And I would never go around in a dress with no underwear—I would feel really unsafe.
“5. This isn’t fun and games. This is dedication. I feel like my eyes almost get stuck in the back of my head every time I read a comment online implying that men just get to throw on makeup and hair and be accepted as women in society. They think we’re full time drag queens, having a blast. First of all, let me assure you that we trans women are not transitioning for anyone but ourselves. Yes, it’s nice to walk out my door and be identified as a woman by the public eye, but I had to see that for myself before they could. A typical day for me might consist of shaving not only my face but entire body. That includes my arms, my cute butt, my knuckles, the back of my neck, etc. (Thanks for the genes, Dad!) Then, if it’s due, I Inject myself with estrogen, which is something I will do for the rest of my life and has cost me thousands of dollars just in the last four years. Then, after putting on makeup to conceal any little detail that hints “man,” I head to work. No, I don’t work toward vacations, or to go to the movies on a Friday night with my nonexistent boyfriend. I work towards saving money for my surgeries, for my electrolysis, for my therapy sessions, or for my future surrogacy/adoption fund. I always have a bill to pay, just to feel content with where things are for me in transition. If I really cared about what society thought of me, I would still be a man. This is for me, not you. Don’t flatter yourself, America.”
Well, there are men who throw on makeup and hair and then can legally be considered female. Like this guy who smirked his way into a women’s prison. Not that anyone really believes they are female—they get treated way better than actual females are treated. Oh, god, he called his own butt cute. Hang on while I get the barf bucket again…
Number 6 explains that it’s easier to tell guys that he’s trans. Okay. Moving on:
“7. “Tranny chasers” are real—and gross. Most men are just afraid of transsexuals, because of the social stigma that comes with dating one of us. God forbid he brings me out in daylight and someone calls me a man and them gay, because then they are emasculated. Even though he may find me beautiful and charming, his ego is what’s most fragile and worthy. I do not shame someone for what they like in the bedroom and I get that it’s not just a issue I deal with for being trans but for being a woman — because people do shady stuff in general. Also, shaming trans-attracted men would be internalized transphobia. However, it’s hard when you’re a person who goes through dysphoria only to find out a guy is only attracted to you and your friends primarily for the one thing you hate most about yourself.”
Yes, the reason most men don’t date transsexuals is because of “stigma.” Right. It’s not because they know you’re male and they’re not interested in men. And, duh, of course the men who are attracted to you are attracted to men. *facepalm*
“8. Dilating is not great, but it’s worth it. The only part in my vagina self-care regimen that differs from a natal vagina is that I have to dilate. I like to think of my vagina as an ear piercing. It’s cute. and fun to have things inside but without attention, it can close up! When I first came out of surgery, my body naturally registered my neo vagina as a wound and, because of that, it wanted to heal and close up. No thank you! The solution is that for 30 minutes, three times a day with a nine inch medical dilator, I would insert and apply pressure to prevent losing vaginal depth. Today, I am down to a dilating only a few times a week, for 30 minutes, and will keep that schedule for the rest of my life. The only bonus it that if I have a sexual companion, 30 minutes of sex counts as 30 minutes of dilation.”
WOW. Yeah, there’s only a slight difference between a vagina and a fuck-hole made out of an inverted penis. The slight difference of having to dilate it for 30 minutes a day or else it will close up. Just a matter of tiny details there. You know, I don’t actually have a vagina self-care regimen—an actual vagina is self-cleaning. Not like an inverted penis, which needs to be washed out or it will develop bacteria, because it’s a fucking surgical wound.
“9.) If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck…A neo vagina, and a natal vagina are basically the same except… They aren’t. The vaginal wall was created from the inverted shaft skin of my penis, leaving the nerve endings intact. I have a sensitive, functioning, clitoris, which was constructed from what used to be the head of the penis. The mucous tissue from the urethral extension in my penis was used to create my labia minora, so from that, I get a little wet, although not nearly as much as an average natal women would. My testicles were trashed. Adios! It feels the same to men and I’m prone to yeast infections and STIs, just like natal women.”
Oh gawd—a neovagina is the same as a vagina except for the fact that it’s a penis. *headdesk* Vaginal walls are not like the skin of a penis—they are made of muscle and they are not smooth. The head of your penis is not a clitoris. Do you know how complicated a clitoris is? First of all, it has twice as many nerve endings as a penis has. You’ll never get 8000 sensory nerve endings no matter what surgery you have on your penis. And it’s not just a little button—it has an entire internal structure that goes around the vagina. For your reference:
“The fact is though, that most of the clitoris is subterranean, consisting of two corpora cavernosa (corpus cavernosum when referring to the structure as a whole), two crura (crus when referring to the structure as a whole), and the clitoral vestibules or bulbs. The glans is connected to the body or shaft of the internal clitoris, which is made up of two corpora cavernosa. When erect, the corpora cavernosa encompass the vagina on either side, as if they were wrapping around it giving it a big hug!”
The surgeons cannot make your penis do any of that, dude.
“10. Periods > Penises. So given the fact that my vagina is 95% aesthetic, periods are something I miss out on in this lifetime. OMG. LADIES I KNOW. I’m “SOooo lucky.” Yes, Having a giant shark chomp on my lower abdomen is something I’m fortunate to not have to wake up to every month, but having a period is nature’s way of reminding you that you can carry life! Being a mother is the biggest dream I have, and as is the case for many women out there, knowing you will never be able to feel life grow inside of you and having that special connection to your child is heartbreaking. I fear my children won’t feel like I’m their mother. I fear that, as babies, I won’t be able to nurture them the same as their birth mother will, because they know I didn’t bring them into this world. So yes, cramps are something I’m happy I don’t have to bare, but I would take it in a instant, if I could bare a child.”
Actually, your “vagina” is 100 % aesthetic. It is certainly not practical, since you have to dilate it for 30 minutes at a time for the rest of your life, and since it is not a birth canal. You poor thing, missing out on periods. And no, you can’t nurture a child the way a woman can. Female mammals produce milk for their young. You are not female.
Does this site have no editors? No one caught the fact that “bear” was misspelled twice?
“11.) But just because I don’t have a uterus doesn’t mean there won’t be a mini-me. Early in my transition, prior to hormone replacement therapy (HRT), my mother took a 14 year old Maddy to a sperm bank. We definitely got side eyes from people wondering why on a earth a mother and her very, very androgynous daughter were there. Well, little did they know that I wasn’t there to rub one out to make an extra buck but because I’d strategically planned a way to have biological children. So yes, I can’t carry a child, but I can still conceive one!! When you start to take testosterone blockers and estrogen, your penis becomes dysfunctional, your penis as well as your testicles shrink up, and your sperm count becomes very little to nonexistent. As you read before, being a mother is a dream of mine, and even though I plan on adoption, I would love the privilege of being able to have a child from my own string of DNA too. So, I went in and did my little thing. When I’m ready, I can find a surrogate mother and try to make that happen If I choose to. I’ve also been very fortunate to have sisters, one of whom has told me numerous times she would love to be an egg donor for my future husband. Seriously! My support system is beyond this world.”
Just when I thought he couldn’t get any creepier, he gives me an image of going with his mom to a sperm bank when he was 14, and his sister carrying his child. Oh gawd. Where’s that barf bucket? And look how proudly he announces his right to choose to use an actual female to carry his baby: “When I’m ready, I can find a surrogate mother and try to make that happen If I choose to.” His choice! It’s always easy for men to find women’s bodies to use for their own purposes. His entitlement and narcissism is nauseating.
“12.) Having a vagina doesn’t confirm my femininity. I was no less of a woman when I had a penis than I am now with a vagina, and I’m not more of one just because I had surgery. Like I said, not every trans woman desires to have vaginoplasty. Some don’t mind their penises, some love them and others are ambivalent about them. Surgery isn’t the cure to our trans-ness and it does not confirm that we are “real women.” Gender is so beautiful because it feels different for all of us and if society didn’t police what categorized us as male or female, our gender presentations would be as diverse and fluctuating as everyone is on this planet is already.”
I wish words actually had fixed meanings. No, having a vagina doesn’t confirm anyone’s femininity, because having a vagina doesn’t make you feminine. People with vaginas (women) can be either feminine, androgynous, masculine, or anything else. It turns out that anyone, regardless of their genitals, can wear any style. Also, no, you’re not “more of a woman” now that you’ve had surgery on your penis. You’re not a woman at all, actually. A woman is an actual biological category (adult human female), it’s not just a surgically created identity that anyone can make.
Gender doesn’t feel beautiful to me. My gender role says I should be pretty, submissive to men, shallow and weak, and obsessed with makeup and shoes. I am not interested in that at all. These traits are forced on women everywhere just because we are born female and this is a part of our oppression. Only the privileged can try on the trappings of an oppressed class like they’re an outfit and have fun with them.
By the way, this is what this guy looks like:
I am attracted to women. This guy does not look the least bit appealing. He looks like a narcissistic and shallow man obsessed with his appearance and trying to look like a pornified woman for the male gaze. No thanks.
Do whatever you want with your body, dude, and have fun, but don’t think you know what’s it’s like to be female.